Today is our 2nd anniversary!!
We like to follow the anniversary gift themes, where year 1 is paper, year 2 is cotton, etc…
We won’t stick too closely to these themes, because we also don’t exchange gifts for any occassion. Not because we’re trying to be frugal, but because we just don’t care about gifts and like to keep things simple (no stressing about ‘the perfect gift’ here).
Last year Martin did give me a very nice paper gift. He made me a calendar with our couple-selfies from the same month in the previous year. 🙂
This year, gifting cotton was appropriate because our goal is to live a healthy life. We are slowly detoxifying our home, alongside detoxifying our diets. One of the things we wanted to switch out was our foam mattress with a non-toxic cotton futon. We spend a lot of time on our bed (ha!) and don’t want to breathe in the harsh chemicals that get sprayed onto mattresses. Perfect timing for a second year cotton gift, ja?
We actually bought the futon weeks ago, and have been sleeping soundly on it since. It’s a lot harder than our foam mattress, but I prefer it. Martin is still getting used to it but says it’s fine. 🙂
Even though cotton futons don’t cost much (starting at 200 EUR for a double), we ended up thrifting it even further by buying it used! I know that sounds gross, but the seller said the mattress was the guest mattress and hardly used. Okay so everyone who sells their mattress says this, but we decided it couldn’t hurt to investigate since ordering a new futon would take 6+ weeks to receive, and we wanted the mattress right away. When we got to the seller’s house, it really was the guest futon! The mattress was pristine, no dents or stains, and also didn’t smell. I actually leaned down to smell it! So for 65 EUR, we hauled it away and have a story to tell.
It’s been a hard year for us, but marriage is suiting us well. We are used to referring to each other as husband and wife now, which took some adjusting to. We’ve been together for almost 8 years, but only married for 2. So the boyfriend/girlfriend titles were more automatic at first.
Most new people who meet me at work don’t know I’m married, because I don’t wear a ring and rarely talk about ‘my husband’. At first I was nervous to mention a partner at all, because I’m hyper aware that everyone assumes newlyweds are trying to conceive (which we are, sort of – more of this later!), and I didn’t think it was good for my career.
But I noticed that Germans don’t have this hang up with whether women will have a baby or not, and that it’s okay to have a partner. I even had a senior director drop by my office to convince me to get pregnant! He would say “f#$*% [company name]” – and go on a tirade about how I should do what I want, and that having a family is important. I seriously felt like I was in the twilight zone, but quickly fell in-trust with him and shared that we were trying. This is the same man who mentored me on negotiating my freelancing contracts. Sounds creepy, but he’s a swell guy!
Marrying Martin was also me agreeing to live in Germany. So one big positive to add to my Germany-list is that as a woman of child-bearing age, speaking about wanting to have kids is not taboo in a corporate setting. Or at least not having to go out of my way to avoid the topic like the plague.
Anyway, happy anniversary dear!! ❤